by Rev Joel Yong
1 Peter 3.1-5
Wives, in a similar way, place yourselves under your husbands’ authority. Some husbands may not obey God’s word. Their wives could win these men for Christ by the way they live without saying anything.
Their husbands would see how pure and reverent their lives are.
Wives must not let their beauty be something external. Beauty doesn’t come from hairstyles, gold jewelry, or clothes.
Rather, beauty is something internal that can’t be destroyed. Beauty expresses itself in a gentle and quiet attitude which God considers precious.
After all, this is how holy women who had confidence in God expressed their beauty in the past. They placed themselves under their husbands’ authority.
This is a difficult passage for some. Perhaps you might wonder, but what if I feel my husband has done nothing for me lately, why then should I place myself under his authority?
Let me explain, the text here seems to be saying, that such submission is more powerful than words one can use. Verse 1-2 shows there is a radiance that comes from Christian wives who place their trust in the Lord AND as a result are able to submit to their earthly husbands even though they are imperfect.
Verse 3 reminds us that what creates appeal for a Christian woman, is that she has an internal attitude- a godliness that appeals. And that shines better than outward beauty.
The reason is simple.
Ladies, if you desire godliness in your spouse, then your godliness that comes from within, will draw it out of him. Not quarreling and sarcastic remarks or bad mouthing his family or him. What you fish with, determines what you catch. Christ has called us to be fishers of men and to fish for souls, godliness that comes from within us, is the key tool to use!
The story is told of a man from India who resisted a missionary’s preaching but when his wife got converted, he tried his best to pressure her out of it by being hard on her over everything. Instead of fighting back, she tried harder to submit to him, to love him, and serve him thus showing the love Christ had for her – was flowing through her and towards her spouse.
As a result, while the man resisted the preaching of the missionary, he could not deny the life transformation exemplified by his wife and he too gave his heart to Christ.