by Rev Joel Yong
“Reuben, you are my firstborn, my might, and the firstfruits of my strength, preeminent in dignity and preeminent in power. Unstable as water, you shall not have preeminence, because you went up to your father’s bed; then you defiled it—he went up to my couch! “Simeon and Levi are brothers; weapons of violence are their swords. Let my soul come not into their council; O my glory, be not joined to their company. For in their anger they killed men, and in their willfulness they hamstrung oxen. Cursed be their anger, for it is fierce, and their wrath, for it is cruel! I will divide them in Jacob and scatter them in Israel.
Israel was at his deathbed and he called his sons to him, to receive his final blessings which also turned out to be prophecies.
I found it interesting, that up till his death, he never forgot that Reuben slept with Bilhah and shamed his father by doing so.
While Israel lived in that land, Reuben went and lay with Bilhah his father’s concubine. And Israel heard of it. Now the sons of Jacob were twelve.
He also did not forget that Simeon and Levi, in their anger, slew an entire city by the sword.
On the third day, when they were sore, two of the sons of Jacob, Simeon and Levi, Dinah’s brothers, took their swords and came against the city while it felt secure and killed all the males.
Of all the things they did in their life, their father could not forget these moments and by these memories, defined what his sons were like …
What memories do you wish to leave with your kids, your nephews and nieces, your spouse, your parents, your siblings, your other relatives?
Well, firstly, for it to even be possible that there are memories left behind, we have to be in their lives today …
Take time and spend time with your loved ones.
6 days a week, I attend to pastoral concerns and matters.
1 day a week, I try to be there for my kids without interruption. My wife has a long day on this particular day so I am the one with them, taking them to school and picking ’em up and coaching them in schoolwork in the afternoon, taking them to afternoon classes.
And yes, it matters to me the kind of memories I am leaving my sons with- whether I am constantly leaving them aside to be at meetings, to attend to church member’s needs, or too tired out emotionally by the time I come home, to listen to their story about their day at school …
And the latter is something I am wary of … for this job can suck up all my emotional energy and cause me to come home depleted.
Those at home, need me to have enough emotional energy to listen to their concerns too …
It’s a struggle for me, and also a priority.
What about you?
What memories are you leaving for your household?