by Rev Joel Yong
until your brother’s anger turns away from you, and he forgets what you have done to him. Then I will send and bring you from there. Why should I be bereft of you both in one day?”
This puzzles me.
She was sending Jacob away because she feared that Esau would kill Jacob in anger, for having deceived their father and taken a blessing meant for Esau.
In her mind, Esau is lost to her …
Now Jacob could be lost too, if his brother slays him.
But wait …
She was the mastermind behind this scheme, for Jacob to steal Esau’s blessing!
Now Rebekah was listening when Isaac spoke to his son Esau. So when Esau went to the field to hunt for game and bring it, Rebekah said to her son Jacob, “I heard your father speak to your brother Esau, ‘Bring me game and prepare for me delicious food, that I may eat it and bless you before the LORD before I die.’ Now therefore, my son, obey my voice as I command you. Go to the flock and bring me two good young goats, so that I may prepare from them delicious food for your father, such as he loves. And you shall bring it to your father to eat, so that he may bless you before he dies.” But Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, “Behold, my brother Esau is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man. Perhaps my father will feel me, and I shall seem to be mocking him and bring a curse upon myself and not a blessing.” His mother said to him, “Let your curse be on me, my son; only obey my voice, and go, bring them to me.” So he went and took them and brought them to his mother, and his mother prepared delicious food, such as his father loved. Then Rebekah took the best garments of Esau her older son, which were with her in the house, and put them on Jacob her younger son. And the skins of the young goats she put on his hands and on the smooth part of his neck. And she put the delicious food and the bread, which she had prepared, into the hand of her son Jacob.
Sooo what was she thinking?
Did she not realize she was creating sibling rivalry with her malicious deed?
Was she blinded in seeking the best for her favorite son and not the other?
Jacob would go on, to play favorites too.
Now Israel loved Joseph more than any other of his sons, because he was the son of his old age. And he made him a robe of many colors. But when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and could not speak peacefully to him.
He wasn’t the only one.
Even Abraham would do so, and send Ishmael into the wilderness, keeping only Isaac.
So Abraham rose early in the morning and took bread and a skin of water and gave it to Hagar, putting it on her shoulder, along with the child, and sent her away. And she departed and wandered in the wilderness of Beersheba. When the water in the skin was gone, she put the child under one of the bushes. Then she went and sat down opposite him a good way off, about the distance of a bowshot, for she said, “Let me not look on the death of the child.” And as she sat opposite him, she lifted up her voice and wept.
Ishmael grew up to father a people, that would become enemies of the descendants of Isaac.
And the angel of the LORD said to her, “Behold, you are pregnant and shall bear a son. You shall call his name Ishmael, because the LORD has listened to your affliction. He shall be a wild donkey of a man, his hand against everyone and everyone’s hand against him, and he shall dwell over against all his kinsmen.”
So how did all these sibling rivalries start?
The parents had a hand in it!
What do we as parents think, will happen when we treat our kids in unequal terms, valuing and rewarding one over another?
It breeds strife.
God is not like this.
He loves all His children. He chose Israel, intending for them to be a light to the world, so that all nations might see their example and come to know God too.
So Peter opened his mouth and said: “Truly I understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.
He urges us to do the same, through James.
My brothers, show no partiality as you hold the faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory. For if a man wearing a gold ring and fine clothing comes into your assembly, and a poor man in shabby clothing also comes in, and if you pay attention to the one who wears the fine clothing and say, “You sit here in a good place, “while you say to the poor man, “You stand over there,” or, “Sit down at my feet,”
The foolishness of playing favorites, leads to dissension, divides people and causes strife.
Be fair … you need not treat people the same, but be fair to all, treating them equally.
Discipline them when they have erred. Reward them when they have done well.